Joint or Shared legal and physical Child Custody
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To: North Carolina Family Law Legislators, Judges, and Administrators
Petition in favor of Joint/Shared legal and physical Custody.
The best interest of the child; we often hear this phrase in reference to child-custody cases, but what does it really mean? Obviously, the best possible environment for any child is an emotionally healthy home with 2 parents who love each other and their offspring. When that is no longer possible, due to divorce, what then can we do to try to minimize the traumatic effect the loss of that family unit will have on the children?
More often than not in the case of divorce, one parent gets pushed to the margins of their childrens lives. Yet, studies done over the past 15-20 years have proven overwhelmingly, that only having one parent involve in the childslife has a profoundly negative effect on most children over the long term. Statistics show that one parent absence, whether voluntary or forced, contributes to much higher incidence of teenage pregnancy, juvenile delinquency, poor academic performance, lower self-esteem, acting out behaviors, feelings of abandonment, distrust, hostility, difficulty forming lasting relationships, gender identity confusion, and teen suicide. It would seem then, that sole maternal custody, where one parent gets relegated to mere visitor status, is NOT in the best interest of any child.
But this is not just a parantal rights issue. Children are suffering the emotional pain of not being able to have a relationship with a parent that they love and what to have a close relationship with. Shouldnt children have right to have a relationship with both parents?
Why shouldnt BOTH parents share EQUALLY in the physical, emotional and financial responsibility for their children after divorce? Mothers and fathers both play vital roles in the development of a happy healthy child. The legal standard SHOULD begin at 50/50 custody, with mediated (if necessary) negotiation between parents as to what schedule best accommodates their and the childrens needs. The only exception should be in cases where a parent is proven to commit abuse or neglect and is considered unfit as a parent.
The current system creates unnecessary litigation and added conflict between parents as they jockey to position themselves in the most favorable light for the court. By equally respecting the bonds children share with each of their parents, a bill for the presumption of joint custody would encourage co-parenting and cooperation between divorced couples. Statistics show that in states where joint custody is the legal presumption, divorce rates are lower than in states where it is not. This petition will be brought before the legislators of North Carolina in an effort to initiate much needed change in family law. Please sign below if you feel that ALL parents have the right to the EQUAL companionship, care and custody of his or her children, and that Shared custody should be the presumptive standard in our courts and state agencies. Our children deserve nothing less.
Petition in favor of Joint/Shared legal and physical Custody.
The best interest of the child; we often hear this phrase in reference to child-custody cases, but what does it really mean? Obviously, the best possible environment for any child is an emotionally healthy home with 2 parents who love each other and their offspring. When that is no longer possible, due to divorce, what then can we do to try to minimize the traumatic effect the loss of that family unit will have on the children?
More often than not in the case of divorce, one parent gets pushed to the margins of their childrens lives. Yet, studies done over the past 15-20 years have proven overwhelmingly, that only having one parent involve in the childslife has a profoundly negative effect on most children over the long term. Statistics show that one parent absence, whether voluntary or forced, contributes to much higher incidence of teenage pregnancy, juvenile delinquency, poor academic performance, lower self-esteem, acting out behaviors, feelings of abandonment, distrust, hostility, difficulty forming lasting relationships, gender identity confusion, and teen suicide. It would seem then, that sole maternal custody, where one parent gets relegated to mere visitor status, is NOT in the best interest of any child.
But this is not just a parantal rights issue. Children are suffering the emotional pain of not being able to have a relationship with a parent that they love and what to have a close relationship with. Shouldnt children have right to have a relationship with both parents?
Why shouldnt BOTH parents share EQUALLY in the physical, emotional and financial responsibility for their children after divorce? Mothers and fathers both play vital roles in the development of a happy healthy child. The legal standard SHOULD begin at 50/50 custody, with mediated (if necessary) negotiation between parents as to what schedule best accommodates their and the childrens needs. The only exception should be in cases where a parent is proven to commit abuse or neglect and is considered unfit as a parent.
The current system creates unnecessary litigation and added conflict between parents as they jockey to position themselves in the most favorable light for the court. By equally respecting the bonds children share with each of their parents, a bill for the presumption of joint custody would encourage co-parenting and cooperation between divorced couples. Statistics show that in states where joint custody is the legal presumption, divorce rates are lower than in states where it is not. This petition will be brought before the legislators of North Carolina in an effort to initiate much needed change in family law. Please sign below if you feel that ALL parents have the right to the EQUAL companionship, care and custody of his or her children, and that Shared custody should be the presumptive standard in our courts and state agencies. Our children deserve nothing less.
30 Signatures
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Bob Hope III
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- My children love me and I love my children. Please help support changes that will allow them to spend more time with me.
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Montie Roland
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Sharlrita Russell
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Steve Blackwell
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- i am personally witnessing these issues with my 5 year old daughter. Where I used to be known to her as a full time dad, now her mom is forcing her hand in creating a part time status for me. My daughter has already shown signs of seeing me more as a stranger. I strongly support a 50/50 arrangement in all custody cases that both parties are capable of.
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Steven McDonald
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- I believe the same and I myself am actually going thrue the same problem right now trying to get joint custody with no child support for neither side because my ex has been keeping me from my child in which is 4 1/2 months old and i don't have the money for a lawyer as she does which is making it really difficult on me and I trully wish I could find someone that could actually help me although i live in another state as in Florida and their laws aren't the greatest in alot of this types of situations!!!
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Levi Hunter
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Carol M. Laney
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- The court system of North Carolina has been too long in addressing joint child custody issues. Most of the time, the reason a mother is granted "placement" custody is to make sure that she gets an ample amount of child support. This is an inappropriate reason to grant placement custody with the mother. In many instances, the child's father was pushed aside by the child's mother because she no longer wanted to be married to him. Yet she is rewarded by the N.C. court system by forcing the father to pay her child support, when in many, many cases the father wants to have physical custody of the child. I realize that each case is different, but in the case of my son, he wants at least joint physical custody of his child and out of the hands of a mother who is promiscuous and runs men through her home on a regular basis. She is currently pregnant by another man. Does this sound like a woman who should have "placement" custody of an 18 month old child???
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Elizabeth Broussard
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- NC mother doesn't want son's father (my husband) to have anything to do with his son. Doesn't even let him talk to him on the phone.
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Chris Sigmon
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michelle lepiarz
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devin wallace
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Tracie L Tumblin
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Gracie Cunningham
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emil brevard
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Wendy Good
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David Amaral
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Melissa S Lira
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janelle fornecker
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JONATHAN C FEND
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Regina Talbert Byers
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John Iversen
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- I support shared parenting
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candace collins
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- fathers should be treated equally to mothers
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scotty white
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- the child needs 2 parents
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Keyron Wiley
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holloway, jeremy a.
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- i am going through a terrible case and have extreme concerns for my sons welfare. i am struggling to be in his life and understand the need of support. my prayers are with anyone in this situation.
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Mark Atnip
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Stanley Spencer
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Jeff Trimble
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Haron G. Kyim
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- I fully and wholly agree!
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Christopher Nelson
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